Dating and sex for nerds and nice guys
A refined look at the results shows that Nice Todd was seen as the better marriage partner, steadier boyfriend, and better platonic friend (though he was not significantly preferred for short-term relationships).
Feminists and others have criticized many aspects of Nice Guy Syndrome, mostly arguing that in some ways Nice Guys (often now called "Nice Guys™" with a trademark symbol to distinguish them from men who happen to be nice people) are not actually good friends or nice to their interest.
There are some aspects of the Nice Guy™ pattern that may be due to inexperience: Underlying feminist criticisms is the position that no one is owed love or sex, not for being a nice person, not for being a feminist, not for any other reason.
Dr Glover said: "Others typically do not realise these contracts exist and are often surprised when the Nice Guy lashes out at their failure to keep their end of the deal." And when things don't go their way, they often complain that they've been "friend-zoned" despite the target of their affections never being interested in the first place.
On the Reddit forum dedicated to the subject, the ulterior motives of Nice Guys are highlighted using social media posts and screengrabs: Whilst it may be that the object of your affections is only interested in friendship, Dr Marczyk believes that if you find yourself feeling resentful about being in the 'friend-zone', you need to change yourself to increase your chances of getting out.
This can be due to the Nice Guys™ increased awareness of other men's unfairness toward female sex partners.